You meet someone, fall in love, get married, have children and are expected to live “Happily Ever After”.
That is the makings of many great “Fairy Tales”.
The reality can be very very different.
You meet the partner
Your immediate family approves of them or disapproves of them. They put doubt in your mind about your partner. Every relationship has it’s ups and downs. Your family never forgives your partner for the ups and downs. They put doubt in your mind about your partner.
You date for a period of time
Your family keeps dropping hints or continuously asking about when you are getting married or why aren’t you getting married yet? They put doubt in your mind about your Partner.
You decide to get married
Your family has expectations of the way your wedding should be and who should be invited as well as the acceptable manner for your new partner to behave in preparation for the wedding. They put doubt in your mind about your partner.
You get married
Your family attends the wedding and hopefully everyone gets on with everyone else
Your family starts asking when you are planning on having a baby. They put doubt in your mind.
You have a child
Your family start bickering about access to the child and how you should bring the child up. They put doubt in your mind about parenting skills and your partners ability to raise a child.
And we haven’t even started talking about how all of this makes you feel.
Then you children start to grow and you and your partner need to become Multi Taskers
Carer Teacher Event Co-ordinator Sports Specialist
Music and/or Dance Teacher Taxi Driver Children’s Entertainer
Bouncer at Parties Psychologist Conflict Resolution Specialist
Social Director Fashion Co-ordinator Personal Shopper
Chef Cleaner and more
While still trying to be an individual in a healthy sexual relationship with your partner.
Really when you think about it. It is not surprising that nerves are frayed, communication issues come up, disharmony and/or dissatisfaction occurs in relationships, grudges are being started or kept going in your relationship.