Personal Freedom Counselling encourages individuals and couples of all ages to work through their problems and to learn valuable tools to work with in their daily life.
INDIVIDUAL AND COUPLES Counselling
At various stages of our life, we come across bumps in the road. Some of these we are able to negotiate ourselves but some we need help with. These bumps come in all shapes and sizes and a variety of forms e.g. Trauma, Loss, Grief, Relationship breakdown, Low self esteem, Exhaustion, Frustration, Loss of Direction, Wanting to change your life path to name a few. Working with a Counsellor can help you work through these bumps in the road and assist you to build tools to move forward.
Are you and your partner going through a rough patch in your marriage and you are struggling to find a solution?
Rough patches in marriages are normal. Sometimes they can be hard to work through for various reasons i.e. different types of communication, different expectations, repeating patterns without solutions. Marriage Counselling can help you to work through the rough patches and help you to find your way through to a happier relationship.
Anxiety & Depression
Anxiety and depression does not discriminate between sex, social status, race or religion. It can happen to anyone. Working through your feelings and emotions at your own pace and with tools that a counsellor can share with you, will help you through those difficult times.
Stress also doesn't discriminate between sex, social status, race or religion. Stress can have an effect on you emotionally and physically, with damaging effects to both. Stress can come from many different areas, work pressure, financial pressure, family pressure, relationship pressure, pressures from society to name a few. By talking through your feelings and working with relaxation techniques can help you through stress.
Statistics show that Bullying has increased dramatically with one out of every 5 student being bullied. However, Bullying doesn’t just happen to school age children. Bullying is just as prevelant in the workplace and in some family situations.
Bullying is an ongoing and deliberate misuse of power in relationships through repeated verbal, physical and/or social behaviour that intends to cause physical, social and/or psychological harm. It can involve an individual or a group misusing their power, or perceived power, over one or more persons who feel unable to stop it from happening.
Bullying can happen in person or online, via various digital platforms and devices and it can be obvious (overt) or hidden (covert). Bullying behaviour is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time (for example, through sharing of digital records).
Bullying of any form or for any reason can have immediate, medium and long-term effects on those involved, including bystanders. A Counsellor can assist you to build tools to stop being affected by bullying behavior.
GRIEF AND LOSS
Suffering a loss, no matter how traumatic it may be, can leave you facing an uphill struggle to climb. However, even with the deepest pain, there is hope. Grief is the body’s natural response to losing someone or something important to you. You may experience a variety of emotions, such as intense sadness, anger, and loneliness, and for different reasons. You can encounter grief for numerous reasons, such as the loss of a job, a relationship ending, moving to a new home, developing a chronic illness, or the loss of a pet or loved one.
Everyone deals with grief differently, but by understanding your emotions, taking care of yourself, and seeking support when necessary, you will be able to heal and move on with your life.
Working with a Counsellor will help you to understand the stages of grief and how to manage it in a healthy way.
LOSS OF DIRECTION AND MOTIVATION
There can be any number of reasons for loss of direction and motivation. Feeling stuck, dissatisfied in a job or relationship, not feeling challenged in what you are doing, having achieved all that there was to achieve and not knowing where to go or what to do next, not being clear on where you want to go or what you want to do, having gone through a major trauma and know looking for more to life, are just some of the reasons people lose Direction and Motivation. By working with your Counsellor to work on putting you and your dreams first and setting your goals and direction towards those dreams and goals, you are able to more forward with clear direction and inspiration.
In the time of Social Media and Internet connectivity, it is sad to see that people are feeling more isolated now than ever before. While the internet has certainly become the information highway and a tool for people to communicate, the amount of people that are not going out and being involved in various social activities, are instead, opting to communicate on Facebook, Instagram, Online chat rooms and the like. This is resulting in more and more social isolation in our communities.
There is a large amount of people in society that do not partake in social media that are being more and more isolated as available opportunities for social interaction are becoming less and less accessible unless you know how and where to find them on social media, if you know how.
The end result is more and more people of all walks of life feeling more and more isolated and disheartened and find it very hard to build their courage and confidence to take steps to break through the social isolation.
Do you need help resolving a conflict with your partner?
It is not uncommon in any type of relationships, marriage, parent and child, significant others can come to a point in a conflict that they just can not find a solution. Working with a Counsellor to come to a mutually agreeable solution can be an effective solution.
ABUSE - Emotional, Physical and Sexual
Physical abuse is any intentional and unwanted contact with you or something close to your body. Sometimes abusive behavior does not cause pain or even leave a bruise, but it’s still unhealthy. Examples of physical abuse include:
Scratching, punching, biting, strangling or kicking.
Throwing something at you such as a phone, book, shoe or plate.
Pulling your hair.
Pushing or pulling you.
Grabbing your clothing.
Using a gun, knife, box cutter, bat, mace or other weapon.
Smacking your bottom without your permission or consent.
Forcing you to have sex or perform a sexual act.
Grabbing your face to make you look at them.
Grabbing you to prevent you from leaving or to force you to go somewhere.
Emotional Abuse - A relationship can be unhealthy or abusive even without physical violence. Verbal abuse may not cause physical damage, but it does cause emotional pain and scarring. It can also lead to physical violence if the relationship continues on an unhealthy path.
· Sometimes verbal abuse is so bad that you actually start believing what your partner says. You begin to think you’re stupid, ugly or worthless. You agree that nobody else would ever want to be in a relationship with you. Constantly being criticized and told you aren’t good enough causes you to lose confidence and lowers your self-esteem. As a result, you may start to blame yourself for your partner’s abusive behavior.
· Remember: emotional abuse is never your fault. In fact, your partner may just be trying to control or manipulate you into staying in the relationship. Talk to someone you trust, like a parent, friend or teacher, about the situation and make a safety plan. You can also chat with a peer advocate for more help when dealing with verbal abuse.
Sexual abuse refers to any action that pressures or coerces someone to do something sexually they don’t want to do. It can also refer to behavior that impacts a person’s ability to control their sexual activity or the circumstances in which sexual activity occurs, including oral sex, rape or restricting access to birth control and condoms.
It is important to know that just because the victim “didn’t say no,” doesn’t mean that they meant “yes.” When someone does not resist an unwanted sexual advance, it doesn’t mean that they consented. Sometimes physically resisting can put a victim at a bigger risk for further physical or sexual abuse.
Some think that if the victim didn’t resist, that it doesn’t count as abuse. That’s not true. This myth is hurtful because it makes it more difficult for the victim to speak out and more likely that they will blame themselves. Whether they were intoxicated or felt pressured, intimidated or obligated to act a certain way, sexual assault/abuse is never the victim’s fault.
Some examples of sexual assault and abuse include:
Unwanted kissing or touching.
Unwanted rough or violent sexual activity.
Rape or attempted rape.
Refusing to use condoms or restricting someone’s access to birth control.
Keeping someone from protecting themselves from sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
Sexual contact with someone who is very drunk, drugged, unconscious or otherwise unable to give a clear and informed “yes” or “no.”
Threatening someone into unwanted sexual activity.
Pressuring or forcing someone to have sex or perform sexual acts.
Using sexual insults toward someone.
Separation & Divorce support
Are you having difficulty un-ravelling your relationship and finding your own feet again?
Unfortunately, some relationships come to an end. Separating and unraveling your lives is a hard process. Having the support of a counsellor can help you to work through your thoughts and feelings and help you to rebuild your life.
COUNSELLING to THE LGBTI+ Community
LGBTI+ people face elevated rates of psychological distress due to social stigma and prejudice, which can adversely affect their self-esteem, sexuality and relationships with others. Homophobia, biphobia and transphobia can also create significant mental health challenges for LGBTI+ people. Counselling can help to address these issues and support LGBTI+ people to live confidently within their sexual orientation and gender identity.
60 to 76% of LGBTI+ people report positive, long-term improvements in both mood and relationships after seeking counselling support.
Being a teenager and moving through to Adulthood is an ever changing and challenging time. Not only is there the stress of Years 11 and 12, sorting out what your career path is, studying from dusk to dawn to get the highest scores possible to get into the best uni course for your choice, you also have to deal with the pressures of your piers, society and the changing relationships with your family and friends. Then you add in bullying, family disruption and a whole log of other disruptions into the mix.
Now you are in an environment that is expecting you to perform at your optimum ability and put in 110% of your time, energy and devotion to your career of choice.
You are also at the age where you are stretching your wings and seeing how far and how fast you can fly in your Social life, sometimes to excess. In spreading your wings, you may find that things that have happened to you in your life are having an effect that is adding to your need to take on certain excess’s i.e. excessive workload, excessive hours, excessive alcohol, excessive drugs, excessive sex.
You may find that you are having trouble with opening up to people or socializing easily, being taken for granted, being misunderstood or being mistreated by people in your life. Not reaching the goals that you wanted to reach or finding the dream too hard to achieve.
Working with a Counsellor to sort through these feelings can help you to identify the triggers that are creating these behaviors and help you to work towards the life that you want for yourself.
OPEN TO ALL CULTURES AND DENOMINATIONS
Personal Freedom Counselling maintains a strong core belief of treating all people as equals no matter what their culture, religious beliefs, social or financial standings are. We do not judge others and form opinions. We respect that each person has their own beliefs and cultural diversity and honor those beliefs.